3, 2, 1… Happy New Ye—BAM, it’s love-life goal time!
You’re ready to leave the past year behind and start fresh. Maybe you’re inspired to date with intention or build a healthier, more fulfilling relationship. But let’s be real—the pressure to transform your love life in just 365 days can feel both exciting and overwhelming.
I get it because I’ve been there. I used to be that “New Year’s resolution junkie,” writing out lists of lofty goals and big intentions. And guess what? Nothing would get done. Instead, I’d pile on so much pressure that I’d buckle under it.
Now, don’t get me wrong—I’m all about getting sh*t done and knocking those goals out of the park. As a dating and relationship coach, it’s literally my job to help people like you make their goals a reality.
But here’s the truth: if you set goals without a clear purpose or plan to achieve them, you’re setting yourself up for frustration, not success.
This year, I’ve worked with clients who wanted to:
- Fall in love
- Move on from an ex
- Improve their current relationship
- Get engaged or married
- Start dating again
Every single one of them achieved their goals—not because of luck, but because they took small, intentional steps to get where they wanted to be.
And now, I want to share the same process with you. So let’s dive in!
This is 5 Step Love-Life 2025 Goal Guide:
1. Create your love-life goal
To fall in love? Breakup for good? Get married? I say, go big or go home. Challenge yourself. Push yourself into a bit of discomfort. This is your chance to truly go after what you want AKA putting yourself first. This is a big deal so treat your goal as such.
2. Reflect within
Think about what scares you about this goal. What might stop you from accomplishing it? Write this down. This is key, and will most likely surface when trying to get there. It may even be the reason you want to stop and give up. Right size this fear and remind yourself it’s ok to be courageous.
3. Bite size planning
Organize yourself and decide what is realistic. This isn’t a sprint but a marathon. The stuff you do everyday accumulates into change. Focus more on the little day to day tasks because that’s what gives you results. When you get overwhelmed with the big goal then remind yourself that all you need to focus on is the next 24 hours.
4. Set up accountability
Nothing big ever gets done without a plan to check-in. Create little reminders for yourself during each week. This will make any setback not feel like you’re in a dark hole that you can’t get out of. Hold yourself accountable by telling a friend what you’re doing. Sometimes speaking it into existence is a great way to keep yourself in check.
5. Re-adjust
Stop worrying about the date. This can cause unnecessary worry that you “only have” 6 months left to make this goal work for this year. As long as you can see what is working and what is not working then you’re doing pretty freaking awesome. It’s normal to re-adjust your goal expectations and maybe even the entire goal.
Happy love-life goaling. Remember, it’s ok to accomplish it. You’re deserving of it all!
And if you want more support, reach out HERE and see how coaching might help you achieve your love-life goals!