A lot of times when my badass clients come to me they want to figure out how to solve their relationship issues.
When you’re right in the middle of it, it can be difficult to figure out what is healthy and what isn’t. Why? Because no one is perfect and at times we have conflict in our relationships. I have! This is totally normal and healthy for every relationship.
Although, whatever relationship issue you have it’s important to make sure you tackle it so you have relationship success. Here are scenarios that show how to solve 5 common relationship issues:
1. We got in a fight…
“We didn’t call each other names or take any low blows. I did end up crying cause I felt frustrated. So I excused myself and when I came back we discussed how we both felt. We couldn’t come up with a common ground and so we agreed to disagree and move on. We haven’t brought up the fight again or used it against each other.”
It’s healthy to disagree. You’re two very different people and ultimately that’s what makes your relationship special. The key is that you are able to experience conflict and still respect one another. And hey, sometimes you gotta agree to disagree and move on.
2. Our relationship feels complacent…
“I’ve been wanting to move in together because I see a future with my boyfriend. I chose to bring it up with him. He was super receptive and felt happy I wanted to discuss this. Was I nervous he wouldn’t feel the same way? Yes, but this allowed us to share what we want out of the future of our relationship. It was nice because now I feel a deeper connection and purpose moving forward together.”
It’s important to check-in with one another when things are feeling stagnant. If you want to continue growing together having conversations of where you see things heading is essential.
3. We may not be right for each other…
“We were on a walk together and I mentioned to him that I’m not sure this relationship is what I truly want. We discussed why we originally got together and where we see it today. We both felt upset and sad. Ultimately we agreed that breaking up would be best.”
Not every relationship you’re in is meant to be forever. It’s important to be able to discuss this with your partner so that you can both gain clarity and understand where each other are coming from. And if it ain’t right, it can be difficult but healthy to end the relationship.
4. We spend so much time together…
“We live together and do so much together that at times we recognize we need to do our own thing. Sure we share a bunch of hobbies but last week he went to his recreation kickball game and I got Sunday brunch with my girlfriends.”
You are both your own people. Preserving that in a relationship and not needing to do “everything” together is what gives you a sense of individuality. This helps create boundaries in your relationship.
5. We make different incomes…
“We discussed finances early on in our relationship. I make more money than him but we’re both ok with that. What was important to both of us is that we each have goals of eventually buying a house and starting a family with that money. He is more logistical than I am and keeps a spreadsheet. That’s not my thing but I always have enough money for my basic needs and so does he.”
Finances are the number one reason for stress in a relationship. And they can be totally uncomfortable to discuss with one another but it’s necessary. It’s important to figure out if you both agree on the way each other spends and saves their money.
Want to know how to solve your relationship issues? Let’s chat!
