Ever get tired of date after date? I have totally been there in the dating world. That’s why I created 4 dating tips that will change your dating game.
1. Treat others the way you want to be treated
The golden rule from kindergarten is key. Ask yourself, “how do I want to be treated on this date?” Then treat them that way too. What are your expectations on this date? Get specific. Think about all of the things that you want for a date to go well. You can’t just wait for someone to treat you awesome.
If you want someone to tell you they had an awesome time on the date then do it yourself.
Why? Showing the other person how you treat them opens the door for them to reciprocate that behavior. And if they don’t reciprocate then they are probably not a right fit for you.
2. Go into it like a networking event
I know it sounds a bit redic, but this does keep the conversation on a basic level. This allows you to learn about this person on a daily basis. If it is your first or second date then you should not go into deep conversations by pulling out family issues or past exes.
This is a time to get to know what their interests and work life are about.
Now I am not saying to be stiff and super professional like you might be at work. Although you do want to have a level of “date professionalism”. This means not rolling up in yoga pants. Dress presentably because when you show up looking nice you set the standards not only for yourself but the person you’re looking for.
3. Treat the date like a friend
Yes, I totally understand you want the intimacy and romance aspect. And I can agree that it is very important. But if you can go into the date like you’re meeting up with a friend then you will be yourself.
When you open up and act the way you do with your friends then you allow the other person space to do the same.
This is also a good indicator of whether or not they can hang with your group of friends. If they aren’t digging your corny jokes or get your sense of humor then maybe it’s an indicator that this person isn’t right for you. It does not mean they are a terrible date. Instead, they are not a match when it comes down to personality.
4. Don’t give up on dating
Have you ever have gone on 1 or 2 bad dates and think, “maybe I should just pull out of the dating game?” Then all of a sudden you’re bargaining with yourself that you’re better off alone. Aka the “forever single friend.”
Keep in mind that if you actually follow through on these negative thoughts then you lessen your chances of getting into a relationship.
Why? Because you have to go on dates to get to know someone. Sometimes it takes more than a couple of guys to date to really find the one. I know it can feel daunting and exhausting but don’t give up. Rember that this person you’re supposed to be with is 100% out there.
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