Trust. It’s one of the biggest foundations of a relationship. And if you do not trust your partner then your relationship lacks stability. This can cause serious issues in your relationship. That’s why I want to help you solve trust issues in your relationship.
Listen to what your partner is saying
If you’re having trust issues in your current relationship because your partner lied, cheated, etc. it is important to truly listen to your partner. Now I am not saying you need to believe your partner and listen to their commands. I actually mean the opposite.
When your partner is talking to you listen carefully as to how they explain their side of things. While they are talking try not to say anything but sit there and listen fully. It may feel uncomfortable because you want to fix the discomfort of the situation or you feel angry, but it is important to hear their side.
If your partner is not making sense and you feel guilty or responsible for their wrongdoing then follow your gut. But, if your partner is speaking from a truthful place and intuitively you feel they’re genuine then listen to how they want to move forward. This will give you an idea of how to compromise together.
Actions speak louder than words
It’s easy for people to talk a big game. If your partner told you that they would do one thing to build trust and you see the opposite, consider it a red flag. When it truly comes down to changing their behavior you need to see it through their actions. If you begin to see a pattern of your partner not committing to gaining trust then I encourage you to reevaluate the situation.
Although, if your partner is making an effort to change their behavior and is staying consistent that is a great sign that they value themselves and the relationship enough to improve within. It may take some time to fully see their actions in full force. After all, change does not happen overnight. Real implemented life change takes time. Keep in mind that no one is perfect, not even you.
Let that sh!t go
If you and your partner both agreed to compromise and move forward then it is time to move on. Holding on to any resentments of not trusting your partner only triggers your stress. Part of the idea of creating trust with a partner is believing that your partner is going to hold up their end of the relationship.
Holding on to any of this baggage is an illusion of control. You may even be holding on as a way to protect yourself from getting hurt. Ultimately you have no control over your partner and their actions. But you do have control over your own choices. You have the choice to move forward in compromise and to create healthy boundaries for yourself in the relationship.
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