Don’t be that person texting on a date. Just don’t. Regardless if it’s your first date or you’re at dinner with your LTR partner, if your thumbs are doing more work than the talking listen up! Here are 3 seriously important reasons why you should not be texting on a date:
Connection
Being on your phone, let’s get real, is a HUGE distraction. It takes away from the flow of conversation and being present on your date. Even if your date totally sucks, being present without your phone in your hands can help you learn more about what you do and don’t want in a partner.
When you are giving and receiving someone’s full attention, you are creating space to grow for a strong connection. By texting or being on your phone during a date, you may miss out on getting to know someone whether it is positive or negative.
Time and Place
Most people go on dates to bond, create less stress and to have fun. Distraction via text is ok but there are also appropriate times for it. It is important to have boundaries around what constitutes a reason to check your phone and then reply via text. If you to look down and see a text message that feels urgent communicate to your date or partner that you need to reply.
It is important, to be honest with yourself as to why you want to text this person back. If it is because you are bored on the date then take note of that. If it is because it is a serious issue that you need to address then find a way to create guidelines to communicate that with your partner or date.
Golden Rule
Treat others the way you want to be treated. Yes, the elementary Golden Rule is important because it applies to your adult life and dating. This is a great way to get to know yourself and the type of person you go on dates with. It’s an awesome opportunity for you and your partner to discuss each other definition of spending quality time.
Really ask yourself, how do I want my date or partner to show up. Apply how you want to be treated and respected by your partner or date through your own actions.
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