8 Things to Discuss Before Moving in Together

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Are you and your partner ready to move in together? It can feel scary and exciting at the same time. Before you both jump into a new lease it’s important to address these 7 Things to Discuss Before Moving in Together:

1. Finances

The leading cause of stress in a relationship are finances. It is important that you and your partner are taking care of your part. For example, you want to make sure each person pays taxes every year. No one wants an unwelcome surprise that you or your partner owes the IRS a couple thousand. Keep in mind that credit approval affects where you rent or buy together.

2. Marriage

The marriage talk can feel a bit awkward. Whether you want to get married or not, it is important to talk about it. You may find that neither of you are ready or you may find that you’re interested in tying that lifelong knot. Talking about marriage can flush out any expectations down the road.

3. Monogamy

There is no “right” or “wrong” way to be a couple. Each person has different boundaries and values. Discussing deal breakers and boundaries while living together is key. This will help build respect and a stronger bond in the relationship.

4. Kids

Kids, no kids, or maybe kids? Discussing kids for the future is huge. If you know 100% that kids are a deal breaker then speak up. Building a family together is the real deal. Talking about this is a great way to tackle future planning so you both can be on the same page.

5. Career

Is your job super demanding? Discuss this with your partner. The work life balance can be difficult. Learning to balance your work and relationship is key. When you are living together you want to make sure you take time out of your busy work day for each other.

6. Location

Moving is one of the most stressful life events. There is a lot to consider when finding your perfect location. A lot can weigh in such as your work commute and cost of living. When you pick a home that is in an ideal location chances are this will prevent you from having to move anytime soon.

7. Teamwork

Take out the trash. Take the dog for a walk. Unload the dishwasher. Sounds easy until you add in your daily grind and another person. Teamwork while living together is essential. Find a way to come up with a fun “teamwork system” before the move in date so you can rely on supporting one another.

8. Space

Create a “me” space. When living together, it’s important that you and your partner have an area where you can both claim as your own. Creating a space, whether it be part of a room, a specific couch, or an entire room, can help give each person their own sense of belonging. This way, you don’t feel overcrowded, and you have a sense of individuality in your living space.

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